With all of my romantic interests, I’ve always stalked their Instagrams before speaking to them or going on a date. It felt better to “get to know them” by myself and then make a decision on them, rather than doing it more organically. Sometimes there’s positives to this (safety being the main one) but ultimately I think it’s a negative, because all we have to go off of in this scenario is our perception of them. On the flip side, when I am talking to a romantic interest and we exchange Instagram profiles, I always get excited to imagine them stalking me and wonder how they perceive me, especially because sometimes I feel like I do a better job of presenting myself online than I do in real life.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful response Mary!💗
Agreed! I usually like to check out a person's Instagram before actually meeting up with them because it gives me an idea of who they are and, honestly, it just makes me feel safer.
But I know exactly what you mean! I do the exact same thing with imagining them stalking my Instagram, hoping they think I'm as cool as I think they are. I always have to remind myself that I don't actually know them lol. But, obviously, we want the people we're interested in to think we're cool, interesting, whatever, it's just natural! But it also makes it easy to create a version of them in our minds and then expect them to be that way. I've done this to people and had it done to me, and I feel like it can be damaging either way.
There's definitely goods and bad to it all, but I think there just needs to be more awareness with how we interact with people online. I mean this has been an issue even before social media, but I think it's made it easier to confuse liking the idea of someone vs. liking them for who they actually are.
With all of my romantic interests, I’ve always stalked their Instagrams before speaking to them or going on a date. It felt better to “get to know them” by myself and then make a decision on them, rather than doing it more organically. Sometimes there’s positives to this (safety being the main one) but ultimately I think it’s a negative, because all we have to go off of in this scenario is our perception of them. On the flip side, when I am talking to a romantic interest and we exchange Instagram profiles, I always get excited to imagine them stalking me and wonder how they perceive me, especially because sometimes I feel like I do a better job of presenting myself online than I do in real life.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful response Mary!💗
Agreed! I usually like to check out a person's Instagram before actually meeting up with them because it gives me an idea of who they are and, honestly, it just makes me feel safer.
But I know exactly what you mean! I do the exact same thing with imagining them stalking my Instagram, hoping they think I'm as cool as I think they are. I always have to remind myself that I don't actually know them lol. But, obviously, we want the people we're interested in to think we're cool, interesting, whatever, it's just natural! But it also makes it easy to create a version of them in our minds and then expect them to be that way. I've done this to people and had it done to me, and I feel like it can be damaging either way.
There's definitely goods and bad to it all, but I think there just needs to be more awareness with how we interact with people online. I mean this has been an issue even before social media, but I think it's made it easier to confuse liking the idea of someone vs. liking them for who they actually are.
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